By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. Socrates.
I'll guarantee, I am no philosopher.
Tuesday, November 7. 2006
Not Enough Time is Criminal
I found the following headline interesting and had to read the article.
Couples go on 'procreation vacations'
I started reading and was getting quite the chuckle out of the article.
That is, I was chuckling until I got to this.
If they are so "overscheduled" that they can't conceive a baby, how in the hell do they think they are going to raise one? Hand it off to a nanny? Children are not some kind of toy for hectic people to play with. They are a real live human being who heeds parents to love and care for them and be with them, not be so "overscheduled" that they forget about them.
People need to think ahead to the responsibility that comes with having a child. Passing that responsibility off to day care or a nanny is not how a child feels loved for or cared for. That just sends a clear signal that their parents are foisting them off and are to busy for them. What a wonderful amount of love that shows.
Maybe if you are to busy to conceive a child, you would be better off without one. Sure enough, the child is not going to benefit when you are to busy for it. That is usually called abuse.
People need to think a little further ahead than the moment. Decisions such as this affect a child for a lifetime. People talk about marriage being a lifetime commitment. Nowadays with divorce it isn't though, the real lifetime commitment is to the kids that might come from marriage. You can't, with a clear conscience, just abandon them like you do a marriage. The kids will suffer their whole lives for that, just like they will suffer for being ignored by parents that are "overscheduled."
Damn this makes me mad, sorry if I haven't made much sense, it just upsets me too much.
Child abuse and neglect offend the basic values of our state. Matt Blunt
Couples go on 'procreation vacations'
I started reading and was getting quite the chuckle out of the article.
When Lucinda Hughes heard she would have to drink sea moss elixir while vacationing in the Bahamas, she was certain it would make her sick. Sure enough, three months later, Hughes is very sick — every morning — and expecting her first baby in April. She got pregnant after she and her husband went on a three-day Procreation Vacation at a resort on Grand Bahama Island.
It's part of a trend in which hotels around the world are luring couples who are trying to have a baby. Resorts are offering on-site sex doctors, romantic advice and exotic food and drink calculated to put lovers in the mood and hasten the pitter-patter of little feet.
That is, I was chuckling until I got to this.
The couple had been trying for only two months, since their wedding in May. But like most couples they have hectic schedules in Washington, where she is a freelance writer and he is a city employee. Cell phones are always ringing, day planners are jammed. "We're all overscheduled," Hughes said.
If they are so "overscheduled" that they can't conceive a baby, how in the hell do they think they are going to raise one? Hand it off to a nanny? Children are not some kind of toy for hectic people to play with. They are a real live human being who heeds parents to love and care for them and be with them, not be so "overscheduled" that they forget about them.
People need to think ahead to the responsibility that comes with having a child. Passing that responsibility off to day care or a nanny is not how a child feels loved for or cared for. That just sends a clear signal that their parents are foisting them off and are to busy for them. What a wonderful amount of love that shows.
Maybe if you are to busy to conceive a child, you would be better off without one. Sure enough, the child is not going to benefit when you are to busy for it. That is usually called abuse.
People need to think a little further ahead than the moment. Decisions such as this affect a child for a lifetime. People talk about marriage being a lifetime commitment. Nowadays with divorce it isn't though, the real lifetime commitment is to the kids that might come from marriage. You can't, with a clear conscience, just abandon them like you do a marriage. The kids will suffer their whole lives for that, just like they will suffer for being ignored by parents that are "overscheduled."
Damn this makes me mad, sorry if I haven't made much sense, it just upsets me too much.
Child abuse and neglect offend the basic values of our state. Matt Blunt
Friday, May 26. 2006
Child Abuse in India
India tackles child marriages
"More than one-third of all brides in India are below the age of 18." This is just totally unbelievable. It's no different than selling these kids into slavery. I realize it's an issue that has to do with the society of the region and the acceptance of such things but it needs to change. If enough people start to look at the issue it might change but people need to make noise, not just in India but all over.
It always bothers me to see children abused in this way. Selling little girls to be wives of older husbands is abuse pure and simple. I don't care what the local society has to say.
Research on child abuse suggests that religious beliefs can foster, encourage, and justify the abuse of children. When contempt for sex underlies teachings, this creates a breeding ground for abuse. Mary Garden
Shanta was only 13 when her parents forced her to leave school and married her to a man twice her age. At 15, while most of her peers were in school, she gave birth. Now 17 and emaciated, Shanta is back in her parent's home after her marriage collapsed: Her husband is in prison for a serious crime that Shanta didn't want to reveal, just as she didn't want to reveal her real name.
"I didn't even understand what marriage meant at 13," she says, her eyes brimming with tears, as her 2-year-old lolls in the background. Shanta hadn't even seen her husband, let alone known him, before she tied the nuptial knot.
More than one-third of all brides in India are below the age of 18, an estimate that activists say could be low, as many marriages - both child and adult - seldom get registered. A Supreme Court decision in February now compels couples to register. Nevertheless, this month, on Akshaya Tritiya, an auspicious festival for Hindus, child marriages were reported to have been solemnized in parts of the country, under the nose of police and despite a 1929 law that sets the legal age of marriage at 18 for girls and 21 for boys.
"More than one-third of all brides in India are below the age of 18." This is just totally unbelievable. It's no different than selling these kids into slavery. I realize it's an issue that has to do with the society of the region and the acceptance of such things but it needs to change. If enough people start to look at the issue it might change but people need to make noise, not just in India but all over.
It always bothers me to see children abused in this way. Selling little girls to be wives of older husbands is abuse pure and simple. I don't care what the local society has to say.
Research on child abuse suggests that religious beliefs can foster, encourage, and justify the abuse of children. When contempt for sex underlies teachings, this creates a breeding ground for abuse. Mary Garden
Tuesday, February 7. 2006
How Many Years?
How many years can you stand to be married to your spouse? This couple has been married 72 years. That's right, 72 years. That just blows my mind for some reason.
It's hard sometimes to think I have been married to My Darling Wife for almost 14 years but to make 72, that's just something. Hell, I would have to be over 100 to accomplish the same feat with My Darling Wife. That's what happens when you wait for the right one. You get married a little older.
I've told My Wife more than once, if she wants to get rid of me, she will have to shoot me. I'm still alive so either I'm OK as a hubby or she's afraid of going to jail. I'm not sure which.
As one grows older, one becomes wiser and more foolish. Francois De La Rochefoucauld
It's hard sometimes to think I have been married to My Darling Wife for almost 14 years but to make 72, that's just something. Hell, I would have to be over 100 to accomplish the same feat with My Darling Wife. That's what happens when you wait for the right one. You get married a little older.
I've told My Wife more than once, if she wants to get rid of me, she will have to shoot me. I'm still alive so either I'm OK as a hubby or she's afraid of going to jail. I'm not sure which.
As one grows older, one becomes wiser and more foolish. Francois De La Rochefoucauld
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