Have you ever had one of those really strange phone calls from family members that confuse you? I did last night and I am still trying to figure it out. What did she want? What did I say wrong that she hung up so suddenly? I admit that I sometimes don't communicate real clearly but usually can figure things out. I guess I will have to call back today to figure it out, if that's possible.
Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone. Deborah Tannen













has said something rude or insensitive. Years ago, I told my mom via
phone that my husband and I were hoping to have a third child
someday. We are both good parents and could afford it but my mom said,
"I don't think ya'll need to have any more kids, do you?" I didn't
speak to her for months.
And Nanc', I had a very similar phone conversation with my mom - with even worse results...